CDC starts with a "Consistent Relationship"

It's time to make a choice: End the romantic relationship, or get the relationship that you want.

As I begin this new era of consistent discipline challenges, all big areas of my life need to become consistent.  This is one of the biggest.

I want to be in a romantic relationship with Sarah.  I love her.  Our dynamic is a good one, there's no drama with her, and it's non-invasive of my time.

That being said, currently this relationship is not satisfying my needs.  This caused a lot of emotional hardship for me in Q4 2016.  That emotional hardship cannot continue into the CDC's... it is far too consuming of my time, thoughts, emotions, and energy.  It is a massive distraction.

She has chosen "My 2 Requirements" below, and given me permission to pester her as much as I need to (I have warned her I may get annoying now), but if she fails to follow through - especially with the pestering - I need to be 100% committed to ending the relationship.

Choice 1: My 2 Requirements

1. We must talk to each other no less than once every 3 days (ex: If we talked on Sunday, but we don't talk Monday or Tuesday, then we must talk on Wednesday.)  It can be as short as 5 minutes, but we have to at least hear each other that often - text / email doesn't apply.
2. We must spend at least 1 hour together no less than twice a week.  (ex: even if we talked 3 hours on a phone call we had on Sunday, we have to have a call that lasts at least 1 hour before next Sunday.)

That's it!  I can say a lot about how much the occasional text or email means to me... but at the end of the day, these are the requirements I care about, and they must be met.

We cannot have 2 weeks in a row where the following requirements are not met or I will end the romantic side of the relationship.

Choice 2: Redefining Our Relationship

Our friendship is very important to me.  I love Sarah, and she's an important part of my life.  If she's not ready to meet my needs of a romantic relationship, that's okay.  Things can always change later if it's meant to be.

1. We will no long engage each other romantically... we are just friends.
2. We will have no more obligations to talk to each other.  We talk when we talk.
3. We will no longer call each other romantic names like "baby", "babe", "sweetheart", "sweetie-pie", "Boo thang", etc.
4. We will stop telling each other how much we love each other.  We know that we love each other.  We will try to avoid saying "I love you" as much as possible.
5. We are free to to be mutually exclusive with other people, on the grounds that they don't prevent us from being friends with each other.  I will never let someone manipulate me into believing I can't be friends with Sarah, and I will never give in to such a demand.

For all intents and purposes, we are just friends, we are not romantically involved, and we will act in this way or we will not talk to each other until we are ready to act in this way.